Alexander Q: The most successful failure in the world

A gay man's quest for successful weight loss, a fullfilling love life and professional validation that opens doors, brings down mountains and summons the full fury of Olympus upon the world…all before 2

Month: July, 2013

Losing to win.


As you know, gays love to look good. In order to do that, we take on some serious and sometimes even dangerous ways to slim down, bulk up or however we decided to contort our bodies. I fell into that crowd, going so far as to do cardio on a regular basis, even when I was sick or not feeling up to it. I lost the weight and felt awesome, but then had the feeling that I was good enough. Shortly afterwards, I gained the weight back.

It wasn’t the need to feel thin that triggered my current weight loss Obsession however. You see, years ago, I was at an Oscars party that my grandparents were hosting. The food was pretty standard fare, but I didn’t care, I ate whatever I wanted. When I got to the cookies, my inner fat kid took over and I basically had a blackout as to what happened. Needless to say, I felt very sick.

It wasn’t the normal food sickness however, it was something even worse. I felt dizzy and disoriented, a bit nauseous and unable to stand for very long. I laid on the couch for an hour before somehow managing to drive myself back home. I was still feeling very nauseous and dizzy, even as I was drifting into sleep.

Flash forward a week later, I was at the doctors getting a phyiscal. I knew that feeling was not normal, so I felt that it was necessary for me to at least check it out. Flash forward another week, I got the call that changed my life

I was pre-diabetic.

I had one foot inside a place I didn’t need to be, that I could control. Immediately, I took everything a bit more serious, I started exercising more, eating right, etc etc. At first, I felt pretty scared about almost being diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. Knowing what my mother has gone through, as well as many of my other relatives with T2D, it’s not an easy life to live, and it can be minimized at older ages or avoided entirely if the proper precautions are taken. Since that phone call that changed my life, I have been more aware of what I have been eating and how I have been exercising, although I don’t always act as vigilant as I would like to be (another blog entry, I swear), I feel that I have done a decent job so far. 

On that note, last year’s physical was even better. I got a call coming out from the gym one day, I was clear, the pre-diabetes was no longer present in my system. I breathed a sigh of relief, but I know that I have to keep it up, whatever it is that I am doing now. I felt like I had dodged a bullet there, that I wouldn’t have to subject myself to a life of blood glucose readers and testing strips. To this day, I do whatever I can to keep up the moment.

Wait, what is pre-diabetes
People with prediabetes have blood sugar levels that are higher than normal, but not high enough for a diagnosis of diabetes. They are at higher risk for developing type 2 diabetes and other serious health problems, including heart disease, and stroke. Without lifestyle changes to improve their health, 15% to 30% of people with prediabetes will develop type 2 diabetes within 5 years. 
-source, CDC

And now, some facts for ya
– Only 7% of the population is aware that they are pre-diabetic
– 79 Million Americans, 35% of them adults over 20, are considered pre-diabetic
– Over half of people aged 65+ and up are pre-diabetic

Now, the best ways to beat it? According to the CDC, physical activity, losing weight and maintaing a healthy diet are key to fighting off pre-diabetes


In other words, “No Shit, Sherlock.”

First things first folks, if you think you have it, I encourage you all to get tested for it, usually through blood work. If you have it, make a plan to deal with it. If not, then do whatever you can to keep away from it as much as possible. It’s not a life one wants to live with, believe me.

If this blog inspires one person to take action, I will be the happiest man on the Earth. Thanks for reading folks, I can’t wait to hear your thoughts.

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Why gayness should run the world


San Francisco Pride 2013 was insane…and in a good way.

I love going to the parade when time allows. It inspires me to see different groups of races, religions, orientations and other groups come together to celebrate what makes us who we are. The event after the parade also inspires me as gays and lesbians come together, total strangers mostly, to swap stories, share experiences with each other and hopefully have a good time. You may think I’m glossing over the not so great parts, the pettiness, the jealousy, the zealousness to hang with your own clique; while I don’t doubt that stuff like that does occur, the LGBT community at large seems to, at the very least, tolerate each other, unlike the world at times.

What inspired me to write this post was seeing an Indian-American (From India) float in the San Francisco gay pride parade. There was one particularly heavy set India woman, who I assume was a lesbian (I have no clue) who was dancing proudly and happily to the beat of a Bollywood style song. I was amazed, here are people who I would’ve never thought to have many members of the LGBT community and here she was, being proud of who she was. On the outside, India does not appear to be very friendly to members of the LGBT community there. With that in mind, it must be such a relief for people who come from countries where being gay can mean anywhere from public mockery to an out and out death sentence, it must be a relief to be around those who can relate and understand you.

It was then that I realized that being part of the LGBT experience is one of those things that unite people that may or may not normally come together under different circumstances. I find it sometimes easy to bond over that with an individual, knowing that they too have experienced some of the same things I have experienced being gay. The need for acceptance seems to be the common denominator for us all, and while all of us in the community experience different levels of acceptance from the people in our daily interactions, at the end of the day we’re still trying to be accepted as individuals.

We’re all on the same road together, fighting for rights that others usually take for granted. Being gay can unite us all, rest of the world, take note.

Oh…and here’s a picture of the author (to the right, the guy in the blue checkered shirt) alongside a good friend of mine, in case you were curious